Good morning, Mamas and Ladies in the house 🌞.
Trust we all had a beautiful weekend?
So, I have a quick question and I really do need honest and open feedback: *Does a man loves you if he repeatedly cheats on you?*
I recently broke off a five year relationship last year because my ex was a serial cheat, some knew about, some I didn't know but I took pride and comfort in the fact that I was his main gf that he brags about and made everyone to know and he must really be in love with me. I broke up with him after a deep self awareness and self acceptance, it wasn't easy but it had to be done.
I've asked men this question and a lot and their answers do varies but I've never had the opportunity to hear from other women. Please, kindly share with me thanks.
Swidy No man who truly respects you will cheat on you .. Love can be stable but the man needs to like and respect you as a human and also be empathetic to your pains …. unfortunately his love isnt enough if the rest aren’t present
A man who loves you wouldn’t cheat . so opinions vary because some men think it’s the nature of theirs to cheat.
cheating is never a mistake and it take a lot to cheat. So baby girl, please he doesn’t love you and I don’t think he would
there are actually men there who would give you the world.. push more and you will meet such men
I know opinions differ (seen it repeatedly) but personally I do not believe a person who truly love you will cheat on you. The way I love, the way I am I am constantly trying to protect those I love, intentionaly do things that will bring no hurt to them. I can't hurt my partner that way. That's why I have always made it clear its a deal breaker for me.
You wrote he was a serial cheat, that's a man with no regard for you, your person and your feelings. To consistently choose to hurt someone you claim to love that way? To me that's unforgivable.
I’m my opinion, I don’t think that a person who repeatedly cheats on you actually loves you. Maybe if they cheat once, it can be tallied as a mistake but repeatedly? That’s a problem that person needs to go sort out with their therapist and/or with their God but most definitely not with you. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, must have been such a traumatic experience and I’m so sorry someone did that to you. I’m happy you’re out of that cycle cuz you deserve so much better.
Another reason for the cheating is that men don't fear the consequences, or that they would lose you. Women think more thoroughly before cheating because we know we're risking our relationship.
Men don't have the same qualms. Cheating is normal for them because in the grand scheme of things, it won't have the same side effect as a woman cheating most times. They know they will be forgiven. They know you love them enough to forgive them. They take you for granted in a way you don't take them for granted.
Love is a feeling that a lot of times you don't have control over. Sometimes there's just something about a person that brings out mushy feelings in you. You can love someone who is not a good person. It's not you, it's just something you're feeling. However, you can dislike them because they're not a good person. You can even not have respect for them. But you love them still. What will break you aware is if you love yourself more and have more self respect.
In a way, you can't really control your feelings of love unless something drastic happens, but you choose to respect people or like them. Their actions cause those things. That's why a man can have those love feelings(because you do things for them that evoke that, or bcos maybe they can't help it. They're just attracted to some part of you) but he may not necessarily respect you or your feelings, hence the cheating.
I've been giving this a some thought and here is what I think. A man can love you and cheat on you severally. But he doesn't respect you. The problem is that we think love is enough. It's not, and love is more complicated than we think. For example you can love your parent or sibling but not like them as a person. That is why love without respect for me is useless.