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6 Simple Tips for Saying No Without Feeling Guilty or Rude

Updated: Jun 12, 2023


Understanding Why Saying ‘No’ is Important

Saying “no” can be difficult, especially when it's to someone you care about. However, as a woman, it is crucial that you learn how to decline requests and offers. The ability to politely decline is a valuable skill that can help you avoid the misery of constantly being in situations that you could have avoided by just saying "no".

If you often say "yes" because you feel bad about saying "no", here are 6 simple tips on how to say "no" without feeling guilty or rude:

1. Acknowledge the Request and Appreciate the Thought

When someone asks you out for an event, ignoring the request to avoid saying no is rude. It is important to appreciate the person for thinking of you when declining. This shows that you have value for others.


Thank you for thinking of me. It's rather unfortunate I won't be available at that time.

2. Express Gratitude For the Opportunity

Expressing appreciation while declining softens the blow and enables the person to consider you for another opportunity in which you may be interested.

Example: I'm grateful for the opportunity. However, I'm unable to take on an additional workload at this time.

3. Be Honest About Your Priorities and Time Frame

It is important to learn how to say "No" to requests for your time or help when you're busy. Accepting to do something when you can't, puts a strain on yourself and causes worse disappointments than an initial rejection. If you won't be available in a set time frame, communicate it clearly in order to manage expectations and avoid overexerting yourself.

Example: I'm sorry I won't be able to help you with your work tomorrow. If you can wait until Tuesday, I will be available then.

4. Offer an Alternative Suggestion or Solution

If possible, you could offer another alternative that could be helpful as you decline the request.

Example: I can't accompany you to the new site, but I will send you the Google address to make it easier for you.

5. Give a Straightforward Answer. Don't Over-explain Yourself

If you find it hard to say "No", you may be tempted to overexplain yourself out of guilt. Chances are, you will end up babbling and sounding insincere instead. Go straight to the point and ignore that guilty conscience.

Example: Sounds nice but I'm not available.

6. Use Softening Words like “Unfortunately” or “Regretfully”

Beginning your rejection of an offer with words like "unfortunately" and "regretfully serve two purposes; it prepares the other person for rejection while also letting them know that you value the offer even though you can't accept it.

Example: Unfortunately, I won't be going in that direction today.


Learning how to say "no" in uncomfortable or undesirable situations is an act of self-love. The goal is to say "no" in a polite manner that will not make the other person feel bad. However, remember that saying "no" politely is for respectful situations. If you're being harassed by someone who refuses to accept polite declination, don't feel bad about being rude to get your point across.

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